1163: Kimmy Seltzer
“Charisma, Confidence, Connection”
What if the secret to finding love—at any age—has nothing to do with apps, luck, or even your own timeline, but starts with how you see (and show) yourself to the world?
On this episode of Thrive LouD, Lou Diamond sits down with internationally renowned confidence therapist, dating strategist, and image expert Kimmy Seltzer for a refreshingly candid conversation that will challenge everything you think you know about dating—especially after 40.
From her transformational "outside-in" approach and the viral story behind her life-changing red dress, to advice for men and women re-entering the dating scene and fresh insights drawn from coaching "Golden Bachelor" contestants, Kimmy Seltzer unpacks how style, vulnerability, and mindset shape romantic success in today's world. Whether you're ready for love, afraid to start, or just want to boost your confidence, this episode is filled with actionable strategies, personal stories, and a ton of positive encouragement. Plus: Behind-the-scenes makeovers, the truth about "fishing in the dating pool," and how Kimmy Seltzer helps people fall in love with themselves first.
Episode Overview:
00:00 Episode introduction and Kimmy Seltzer’s background
02:05 How dating has changed and Kimmy Seltzer’s current focus
04:13 When people typically seek out dating help
06:03 The “fisherman” metaphor and dating later in life
07:29 The Charisma Quotient explained
10:00 Three pillars of the Charisma Quotient
13:00 How Kimmy Seltzer approaches style/image for men and women
17:08 Makeover stories and building confidence
18:26 Dating strategy, chemistry, and timing
20:26 Working with The Golden Bachelor contestants
22:06 The rise of later-life dating and resources
23:10 The biggest gift from creating her podcasts
25:08 Upcoming events, workshops, and where to find Kimmy Seltzer
26:28 Speed round: favorites, activities, and fun facts
32:29 The “fish in a barrel” dating myth and mindset shift
35:18 Outro and ways to connect
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